Semalam, saya dan wife pergi Mydin beli barang-barang dapur sikit. Masalahnya on the way tu jam sebab kereta terlampau banyak. So badan memang dah start letih la kan masa tu. Dah kat Mydin tu parking jauh, and kene buat pit stop kat Courts Mammoth pula, jalan lagi jauh, so badan lagi letih. Not for me la kan sebab saya sihat dan kuat (sebenarnya ngantuk gila jalan-jalan semalam).
Badan wife la extra letih. Tapi dia suka jalan-jalan and if ikat dia kat pokok pun she'll find a way to wiggle herself out just untuk jalan-jalan - lepas tu dia ikat diri dia balik kat pokok.
So sekarang kalau jalan-jalan lebih sikit mula dia terpegang sana, terpegang sini. Dia membongkok sikit, muka cemek pula, tangan mula nak grab semua benda keliling dia. Tapi sekejap je pastu dia ok dah.Semalam dah nak balik dari Mydin tu macam tu la dia. Bila tengok dia rasa kesian, tapi sebab tak boleh nak buat apa, mampu tengok and buat muka concern je. Lepas tu ayat sama, "You okay? nak pergi doctor?". Dia akan jawap, "No, it's okay"
Yang best tu masa tengok dia semalam tengah pegang perut dia yang extra large tu, nampak macam dia baru beli tembikai yang sehat dari Mydin and simpan dalam baju. Kalau orang yang tak tahu apa-apa tentang orang mengandung, atau apa-apa tentang tembikai, mesti ingat memang betul dia tengah sorok tembikai. Orang tu akan kata, "Tembikai RM5.69 pun tak nak bayar..ish ish".
Now comes the question, adakah wife saya patut teruskan bekerja? Dia memang nak teruskan, and understandably so. Dia tak nak rugikan maternity leave before pregnancy. Nak guna sebanyak mungkin for the post pregnancy excitements.
Then again kita memang dah ada plan if anything happens, before, during or after work. Masa tengah drive ke apa semua pun dah plan. But scary jugak la kan. So my suggestion has always been, take a leave one week before. Tapi dia kalau boleh nak a day before je baru take leave. Tak apa, dia memang kuat and has always been so. Percentage keyakinan lebih la sekarang ni because of her ability and strength.
Tapi all these anticipations of when and where we are going to be masa the actual birth giving is going to start tu is quite confusing and scary (sikit je scary, taknak wife worry). Kekadang tu dia ada contractions and all tapi kekadang tu sakit perut sahaja and bukan contraction. People, pregnant woman are as confused about their body as a girl who is starting her fist period. They don't know anything about their body.
Mula-mula ingat contraction, may end up just being gas. Then something like a WWII bomb would erupt and you don't know what is happening. Mula-mula ingat gas and end up memang gas. Gas banyak badan diorang ni.
My wife tak insecure about her body as some woman would be masa pregnancy. Dia rasa semua besar tapi okay lagi because selama hidup ni dia asyik kecik je. Jadi besar sekali sekala best jugak - agaknya ini dia fikir kot, tapi dia tak ngaku...hihi. Dia cuma takut, sebab besar sangat baby tu susah nak keluar.
Doctor dah assure her yang badan dia okay lagi and ketinggian dia would be good enough to deliver the baby normally. Then again, if my wife's fear pun I understand. It's only logical to be afraid. That thing shoots out of the body from a very small "exit". It's like pushing a boulder through a rabbit hole - if you know what I mean *wink wink*.
The trick is too always stay calm. Macam mana resah, macam mana susah and macam mana sakit pun, they have to try and stay calm. What the husband can do is to always assure her that it's going to be okay and the pain would gradually go away (after giving birth la kan). Plus it is so worth it. A baby would be born; what better thing can you be rewarded with for all your effort kan? But saying is one thing, looking from the sides is another thing and actually going through it like my wife is, is a whole different ball game.
Here's hoping that the baby slides out easy!
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